The power of purpose by Peter S Temes

The three levels of thinking

Getting past asking “How am I? How do I feel?

Getting past asking “How do others see me”

Arriving at the most important questions, “how do others see themselves? What are their most important goals?

The commitment statement that leads to success:”I can help others succeed”.

Michael Jordon

To succeed at any difficult, worthwhile task, you’ll have to pass through a great deal of failure

You must put aside the fear of looking like a failure in order to fund your truest success


Even the poorest man sees in his child the prospect of greatness. Affirm his hopes, and your arguments will appeal to him

Even the most wretched or rotten person is precious to someone. Se through those eyes, and you’ll take a great leap forward.

Mother Theresa

Ambition does not have to be selfish

Ambition is the most effective when it serves a greater good

Ambition can come hand in hand with modesty – the focus of attention can remain on the ambitious accomplishments and not on the ego of the person leading the charge


Happiness is a moral state, not an emotional state

If you are not happy, seek to be a better person instead of simply seeking to feel happier

Being good means doing good. Virtue is useless unless it leads to positive actions

Help others to be happier by helping them to become better

Two lessons from John Locke

Property is a fact –everything is owned by somebody.

To deserve what you own, you need to invest time and energy in making it better

Owning what we build drives us to build great things

Evil is not an active force, but simply the absence of goodness. So to fight evil, focus on making more goodness, not on winning battles against the bad

Put more goodness into the world, and a corresponding amount of evil will disappear, without having to win any battles against it

Reframe the game in terms of long-term goals to help others
If you can’t help the people you set out to help, help others
Use failure as an opportunity to strengthen and increase your ambition
Focus on trust – if it’s absent, build it by helping others reach their goals

People do terrible things more often out of the urge to conform – because they are worried about how others perceive them – than from a desire to do harm
Reflective thought and real insight are necessary for moral behavior

Helping other people to think critically helps them to be more moral, and more successful in the long run.

Critical Thinking, the big 5

3 levels of thinking
Focus on the war, not on the battle
Be at the center and at the fringe
Know who is the stronger and who is the weaker in every negotiation (the art of the possible)
Where reason ends, faith can get you the rest of the way

Relationship skills

Share every gain
No secrets
Build teams

Abraham Lincoln

Seek common ground when you make an argument –tell your opponents,” this is not the taunt if enemies, but the warning of friends”
“kind, unassuming persuasion should ever be adopted” – never seek to prove yourself superior, but always seek to learn from your opponent, even as you defeat his argument

Much of what makes us happy in the short run is an illusion
Demonstrating to others that what they believe is wrong can be dangerous
You can’t count o people to recognize the truth when they hear it
People will fight to preserve their own ignorance
You need a long-term, empathetic strategy to help people overcome their illusions
Short term rewards are tempting – beauty and youth can sell with great initial power.
Long term satisfaction comes from passion and commitment, not from the short term virtues like beauty and youth
he externals, like the specific words you use, can never make up for the poor understanding or lack of belief in what you are doing or selling

Making the leap from rehearsal to real understanding

Listen deeply. Don’t think about how you will reply until the person you’re talking to has said all he or she wants to say
Ask honest questions that reflect real curiosity (don’t ask questions just to steer the conversation where you want it to go).
Don’t worry about how you look or sound.
Don’t be afraid to ask silly questions
Ask whether you’re getting it right as you listen. Summarize what you hear the person you’re talking to say, and ask whether you’re on track


~ by antinomian on October 22, 2007.

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