You Can Win by Shiv Khera

Chapter 1 – Importance of building a positive attitude

• change focus, look for the positive
• make a habit of doing it now
• develop an attitude of gratitude
• build a positive self esteem
• stay away from negative influence
• learn to like the things that needs to be done
• start your day with a positive

Optimist

1. Be so strong that nothing can distueb your peace of mind
2. Talk health, happiness and prosperity to everyone you meet
3. Make all your friends feel there is something in them
4. Look at the sunny side of everything
5. Think only of the best, work only for the best, and expect only the best
6. Be as enthysiastic about the success of others as you are about your own
7. Forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
8. Give everyone a smile
9. Spend so much time improving yourself that you have no time left to criticize others
10. Be too big for worry and too noble for anger.

The 5 Cs

• character
• commitment
• conviction
• courtesy
• courage

Chapter 2 – Success ; Winning strategies

Success is the progressive realization of a worthy goal

Qualities that makes a person successful

1. Desire
2. Commitment
3. Responsibility
4. Hard work
5. Character
6. Positive Believing
7. Give more than you get
8. The power of persistence
9. pride of performance
10. Be willing to be a Student – Get a mentor

Reasons for failure – Why we don’t achieve excellence

1. Unwillingness to take risks
2. Lack of persistence
3. Instant gratification
4. Lack of priorities
5. Looking for shortcuts
6. Selfishness and greed
7. Lack of conviction
8. Lack of understanding of nature’s law
9. Unwillingness to Plan and Prepare
10. Rationalizing
11. Not learning from past mistakes
12. Inability to recognize opportunity
13. Fear
14. Inablility to Use Talent
15. Lack of Discipline
16. Poor self esteem
17. Lack of knowledge
18. Fatalistic attitude
19. Lack of purpose
20. Lack of courage

Crash course for success

• Play to win and not to lose
• Learn from other people’s mistakes
• Associate with people of high moral character
• Give more than you get
• Don’t look for something for nothing
• Always think long term
• Evaluate your strengths and build on them.
• Always keep the larger picture in mind when making a decision
• Never compromise your integrity

Chapter 3 : Motivation ; Motivating yourself and others everyday

1. Develop a sense of pride through training
2. Reward performance
3. Set well-defined, clear goals.
4. Set high expectations
5. Set clear, measurable benchmarks
6. Evaluate the needs of others
7. Make others part of your big picture. Set a good example by being a positive role model. Build the self-esteem of others.

Chapter 4 : Self-Esteem – Building a positive self-esteem and image

1. Read life stories of people who have turned negatives into positives. Make reading good books or listening to inspirational audio tapes part of your daily routine.
2. Regularly and systematically commit a portion of your time and/or money to charitable activity without any expectations in cash or kind.
3. Stay away from negative influence. Don’t give into peer pressure
4. Practice giving and receiving sincere compliments graciously.
5. Start accepting responsibility for your behaviour and actions
6. Practise self-discipline even when it is not comfortable.
7. Associate with people of high moral character
8. Be creative and find ways to turn your weaknesses into strengths
9. Practice patience; persevere if the results are not visible.

Chapter 5: Interpersonal Skills; Building a pleasant personality

Steps to building a positive personality

1. Accept responsibility
2. Consideration
3. Think win-win
4. Choose your words carefully
5. Don’t criticize and complain
6. Smile and be kind
7. Put positive interpretation on other people’s behavior
8. Be a good listener
9. Be enthusiastic
10. Give honest and sincere appreciation
11. When we make a mistake, we should accept it immediately and willingly
12. When the other person realizes and admits that he has made a mistake, congratulate him and give him a way out to save face
13. Discuss but don’t argue
14. Don’t gossip
15. Turn your promises into commitments
16. Be grateful but do not expect gratitude
17. Be dependable and practise loyalty
18. Avoid bearing grudges. Forgive and forget
19. Practice honesty, integrity and sincerity
20. Practice Humility
21. Be understanding and caring
22. Practice Courtesy on a daily basis
23. Develop a sense of humor
24. Don’t be sarcastic and put others down
25. To have a friend, be a friend
26. Show empathy

Chapter 6 :  Subconscious Mind And Habit; Building a pleasant personality

21 days of conscious effort to change for the better

Chapter 7: Goal Setting; Setting and Achieving your goals

1. Make definite goals
2. Write them down
3. Read your goals twice a day, morning and night
4. Make goals sloghtly out of reach but not out of sight
5. Check your progress periodically

Chapter 8 : Values and Vision; Doing the right thing for the right reason

7 deadly sins

1. Wealth without work
2. Pleasure without conscience
3. knowledge without character
4. commerce wthout morality
5. science without humanity
6. religion without sacrifice
7. politics without principle

What money will not buy

1. Amusement but not happiness
2. A bed but not sleep
3. Books but not wisdom
4. A clock but not time
5. Companions but not friends
6. Finery but not beauty
7. Food but not appetite
8. House but not home
9. Medicine but not health
10. Ring but not marriage

Commitment implies

1. Dependability
2. Reliability
3. Predictability
4. Consistency
5. Caring
6. Empathy
7. A sense of duty
8. Sincerity
9. Character
10. Integrity
11. Loyalty

~ by antinomian on September 9, 2006.